Why a Self-Help Book to Women’s Safety is so Important?
The need for a guide to women’s safety stems from the immense and persistent challenges women face in feeling secure and protected in their daily lives. Despite progress in recognising and addressing violence against women, we still live in a world where misconceptions and cultural norms create barriers to safety. These false beliefs often discourage women from trusting their instincts and abilities, leaving them unprepared to handle or avoid dangerous situations effectively. Providing accessible, practical, and empowering advice for women has become not only necessary but urgent. Women seeking guidance deserve a resource that fosters confidence, promotes awareness, and offers actionable strategies to navigate a world that is regrettably filled with risks. While systemic change is vital, practical help is an immediate necessity. Throughout history, women have demonstrated remarkable resilience, survival skills, and inner strength—even in the most extreme circumstances. This guide, NEVER A VICTIM – The Definitive Guide to Women’s Safety, was developed to build on that legacy, offering tools and strategies to empower women and equip them with the knowledge to navigate threats, both subtle and overt. It aims to reignite trust in women’s instincts, while challenging societal norms that often place the burden of safety on their shoulders. Addressing an Urgent Need for Guidance The staggering prevalence of violence against women highlights the necessity for this type of guidance, particularly given that the global scale of violence against women is nothing short of staggering, according to UN Women. Nearly 736 million women—almost one in three—have endured physical or sexual violence from an intimate partner, non-partner sexual violence, or both at least once in their lives (30% of women aged 15 and older). This estimate excludes incidents of sexual harassment. Disturbingly, the majority of violence against women is inflicted by current or former husbands or intimate partners. Over 640 million women aged 15 and older (26%) have been subjected to intimate partner violence. According to the 2016 Australian Bureau of Statistics (ABS) Personal Safety Survey, an overwhelming 93% of offenders with a primary offense of sexual assault were male. This stark reality underscores why this guide to women’s safety focuses primarily on male violence, while still recognizing that violence can be perpetrated by and against individuals of any gender. A 2018 study by researchers from Glasgow University (Scotland), involving almost 1,000 rape survivors, found that more than 90% of rape and sexual assault victims knew their attacker. Despite these sobering realities, there remains a noticeable lack of effective, practical guidance to help women address and respond to these threats. Society offers clear warnings about dangers like unsafe swimming, drunk driving, smoking, or even drinking bleach, but the advice for avoiding and handling predatory behaviour often falls short. This is where a guide like NEVER A VICTIM proves invaluable, filling the gap with sound, empowering advice for women seeking to enhance their safety. Balancing Freedom and Safety It is undeniable that safety precautions can sometimes feel restrictive. Women are often expected to adapt their behaviours and habits to avoid danger, a reality that is both unjust and frustrating. While it is unfair that women must alter their actions to navigate a world where violence is so prevalent, practical steps can offer protection and peace of mind. NEVER A VICTIM acknowledges this harsh truth but strives to strike a balance—helping women find ways to live freely while staying vigilant and prepared. By fostering self-awareness, situational analysis, and practical safety strategies, it equips women with the tools they need to mitigate risks without sacrificing their independence. While practical advice and individual preparation are crucial, lasting change requires systemic efforts. Can Violence Against Women Be Reduced or Eliminated? Yes, I wholeheartedly believe so. However, reducing violence against women requires both systemic change and individual action. While no single approach will solve this issue, a multi-faceted strategy can help significantly mitigate risks and, one day, perhaps even eliminate them. Achieving this requires addressing root causes, improving accountability, and providing support to survivors. Early Intervention for At-Risk Boys Boys who experience or witness violence—whether through domestic abuse, gang involvement, or conflict—must be identified and supported. Providing therapeutic interventions and resources can help break the cycle and prevent them from becoming future perpetrators. Combating Misogyny Misogyny remains deeply entrenched in many cultures, amplified by online platforms that spread harmful ideologies. Identifying and challenging individuals and groups promoting misogynistic beliefs is critical, alongside education and accountability measures to dismantle these toxic mindsets. Transforming Patriarchal Societies In many regions, patriarchal norms perpetuate gender inequality and reinforce harmful traditions. Changing these systems requires collaboration with local leaders, activists, and organisations to shift societal attitudes and promote gender equity. Strengthening Legal Frameworks Laws protecting women from violence must be clear, comprehensive, and strictly enforced. Stricter sentencing for perpetrators sends a strong message about the seriousness of these crimes while serving as a deterrent. Improving Law Enforcement Practices Survivors must feel confident in reporting crimes and trusting law enforcement. Police forces need to eliminate corruption, ensure integrity, and adopt victim-centred approaches to investigations, prioritising empathy and accountability. Better Handling of Online Violence The rise of digital platforms has created new avenues for abuse. Strengthening investigations and prosecutions of online harassment, exploitation, and sexual violence is essential to protect women in virtual spaces. Providing Accessible Support Services Survivors of violence need safe, judgment-free access to support services that address their physical, emotional, and legal needs. These resources must be easy to access and designed to empower women as they rebuild their lives. NEVER A VICTIM serves as a vital resource for women today, but the ultimate goal is a world where such guidance is no longer needed—a world where women can live without fear, freely pursuing their ambitions and dreams. Until that day arrives, offering support, strategies, and resources is an essential step toward a safer, more equitable future for all women. The UK-dedicated edition is available now. The international edition will be available on 12 March 2025. You can order your copy here.
Three Decades of Progress: Celebrating the Violence Against Women Act
As the United States marks the 30th anniversary of the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA), the Justice Department has announced over $690 million in grant funding through the Office on Violence Against Women (OVW). This funding aims to strengthen services and justice responses for victims and survivors of domestic violence, sexual assault, and stalking across the country. Originally passed in 1994, VAWA was the first comprehensive federal law designed to prevent and address gender-based violence. Since then, it has been reauthorised multiple times, expanding resources and protections for survivors. This recent funding emphasises three decades of progress and continued commitment to ending violence against women. Deputy Attorney General Lisa Monaco, reflecting on VAWA’s journey, stated, “I was privileged to work on the passage of the original Violence Against Women Act thirty years ago — landmark legislation that transformed how our nation responds to domestic violence and sexual assault. Our country’s progress to prevent gender-based violence is not finished, but we have come a long way since 1994 thanks to the hard work of survivors, advocates, and members of law enforcement — including the women and men of the Justice Department — who work every day to hold perpetrators accountable and protect survivors. The grants we’re announcing today reaffirm our commitment to building safe communities for all, free from violence and fear.” Since its inception, VAWA has supported numerous initiatives to enhance services for survivors and increase accountability for offenders. The law’s advancement reflects a growing understanding of the complexities of domestic violence, sexual assault, and stalking and the need for comprehensive, community-based responses. The newly announced funds will be allocated through several grant programs, including over $171 million for the STOP (Services, Training, Officers, and Prosecutors) Violence Against Women Formula Grants Program. This program fosters coordinated responses among law enforcement, courts, and victim services across all 50 states and six U.S. territories. Additional grants will provide over $52 million for sexual assault services, $40 million for transitional housing, and $24 million to enhance the criminal justice system’s response to these crimes. “The power of VAWA is that it is centred on the lived realities and leadership of survivors,” said Office on Violence Against Women (OVW) Director Rosie Hidalgo. “By identifying what works well that can be expanded and enhanced, and identifying gaps and barriers, we can continue to improve VAWA and ensure that we are supporting all survivors, including those from historically marginalized communities and underserved populations who often face multiple barriers to services and safety.” Established in 1995 to implement VAWA, the OVW has provided more than $11 billion in funding. Three decades on, violence against women continues to exist, and so the fight shall continue. As VAWA marks this milestone, it serves as both a reminder of the progress made and a call to action for the work still required to ensure safety, justice, and healing for all survivors. — About the Author My name is Robert Kaiser. I am the author of NEVER A VICTIM: The Definitive Guide to Women’s Safety, a book aimed at helping women prevent both physical and sexual violence. The UK edition will be available from on 20 November 2024, with an international edition following on 22 January 2025. Both editions will be available in hardcover and eBook formats, with audiobook versions scheduled for release in Spring 2025. This extremely comprehensive guide book contains 504 pages, over 110,000 words, and includes numerous safety recommendations highlighted to enhance women’s safety, and empower women to trust in their innate ability to protect themselves and stay safe. Over the past three decades, I have dedicated myself to understanding violence against women, including sexual violence, specific acts of physical violence, and the individuals who perpetrate them. I have had the privilege of listening to and working with hundreds of female survivors of sexual and physical violence, whose incredible support I will forever appreciate. However, I have also engaged in extremely challenging and complex conversations with rapists, predators, and other criminals to help identify alarming behaviour traits and behaviour patterns. This allows us to predict future acts of violence and learn to prevent them. You can follow me on Facebook or LinkedIn.
What are the reasons behind the increase in violence against women?
Violence against women is now being recognised as a national emergency, according to a recent report from the National Police Chiefs’ Council (NPCC). While this recognition is long overdue, the report highlights a stark reality: violence against women is becoming more severe, not less. In the 2022-2023 period, cases of domestic violence, sexual assault, stalking, harassment, exploitation, and child abuse in England and Wales rose by 37% compared to 2018-2019. Although part of this increase can be attributed to a greater willingness to report crimes, this does not explain the entire rise. We must carefully investigate what else is contributing to the growing dangers women face today. A New Wave of Misogyny One troubling factor is the radicalisation of young men by online misogynists who promote aggressive and harmful views about women. Deputy Chief Constable Maggie Blyth has warned that this is a significant issue that must be taken seriously. More needs to be done by parents, educators, and tech companies to counteract this trend. Social media platforms, for example, have been criticised for their slow response in distancing themselves from toxic influencers like the disgraced YouTuber Andrew Tate, who is facing charges of rape and human trafficking in both Romania and the UK. A Crown Prosecution Service study found that people under 25 are less likely than older generations to understand that consent cannot be assumed in the absence of physical force. However, people like Andrew Tate may be a result of deep-rooted misogyny, rather than the cause of it. A recent NPCC report reveals that the average age of perpetrators of rape, sexual violence, or domestic abuse is 37 years old, indicating that these offenders are primarily adult men, not confused young individuals. These are grown men who often repeatedly and systematically abuse, harass, and seek to control women. Alarming Statistics and a Weak Justice System The statistics paint a bleak picture. Each year, approximately one in 20 adults in England and Wales, around 2 million people, will commit acts of violence, and one in 12 women will become a victim. The report does not address the uncomfortable question of how many offenders commit these crimes simply because they can—because they know they are unlikely to face consequences. While the NPCC findings show that arrest and charge rates in rape cases are rising, the criminal justice system remains in utter disarray. Courts are so backlogged that victims of violence can wait years for justice, and many may choose to drop their cases rather than endure the prolonged trauma of an unresolved legal battle. Probation services are overstretched, prisons are overcrowded, and women’s refuges and social services are underfunded. The Role of Law Enforcement and Policy Changes The decision by the previous government to categorise violence against women and girls as a national threat was a step in the right direction. This policy shift has pushed police forces to treat the issue with the same level of seriousness as organised crime. Yvette Cooper, the new Home Secretary, is closely monitoring a Metropolitan Police initiative to identify and pursue the 100 most dangerous offenders in London, a program that could be extended to other forces if it proves successful. Some police forces are also experimenting with preventative programs. For example, Essex Police have implemented an initiative that identifies behaviour patterns likely to lead to domestic violence and intervenes early, offering perpetrators help to change while closely monitoring them to protect potential victims. The success of such programs is measured by fewer women being harmed, not necessarily by an increase in convictions. However, there is still a long way to go before we have a criminal justice system where women feel confident, they will be taken seriously, and repeat offenders genuinely fear getting caught. The current lack of deterrence is a significant gap that needs to be filled by the new government, which often highlights its commitment to justice. Understanding the Deeper Issues The question many women ask is why some men harbour such intense animosity toward them, as if understanding this could somehow put an end to the violence. While there may not be a straightforward answer to this painful question, one thing is certain in my eyes: crime always thrives in environments where it goes unpunished. The cultural environment in which boys are raised is undoubtedly important, but vigorous law enforcement is what ensures that violent actions have visible and inescapable consequences. I believe that once the consequences for these actions become apparent, we might begin to see a shift in culture. Conclusion: An Urgent Call for Action We will all agree, the rise in violence against women is a crisis that demands immediate attention. The contributing factors are complex and varied, from online radicalisation, poor upbringing, lack of love and discipline, cultural backlash to systemic failures in the criminal justice system. Addressing these issues requires a comprehensive approach involving policy changes, better law enforcement, community engagement, and a commitment by everyone to challenging harmful attitudes. Only then can we hope to create a society where women are genuinely safe, and perpetrators of violence face the full weight of justice they deserve. About the Author My name is Robert Kaiser. I am the author of NEVER A VICTIM: The Definitive Guide to Women’s Safety, a book aimed at helping women prevent both physical and sexual violence. The UK edition will be available from on 20 November 2024, with an international edition following on 22 January 2025. Both editions will be available in hardcover and eBook formats, with audiobook versions scheduled for release in Spring 2025. This extremely comprehensive guide book contains 504 pages, over 110,000 words, and includes numerous safety recommendations highlighted to enhance women’s safety, and empower women to trust in their innate ability to protect themselves and stay safe. Over the past three decades, I have dedicated myself to understanding violence against women, including sexual violence, specific acts of physical violence, and the individuals who perpetrate them. I have had the privilege of listening to and working
About my future women’s safety blogs
First and foremost, I want to thank you for visiting my website and blog. Let me make one thing clear from the outset: No woman deserves to experience physical or sexual violence, regardless of her attire, level of intoxication, or demeanour. Violence against women is unequivocally unacceptable. My future blogs will leave no doubt about my stance on this issue. Throughout 2024, The Guardian newspaper aims to report on every woman allegedly killed by a man, drawing on the work of campaigns such as Counting Dead Women, the Femicide Census, and Killed Women. As of today (13 August 2024), 50 women’s deaths have led to a man being charged. A survey conducted by “Killed Women,” a UK-based organisation and network of families of women killed by men, revealed some harrowing findings: 67% of families believe the killing of their loved one was preventable. This definitive guide to women’s safety aims to help prevent both physical and sexual violence. Violence against women demands our full attention, particularly given that, in 2023 alone, police recorded 68,387 rapes in England and Wales. According to a national study conducted for police chiefs, Sir Mark Rowley, head of London’s Metropolitan Police Service, stated in June 2024 that there are up to 4 million perpetrators of violence against women and children in the UK. Other data shows that there are more than 1 million domestic violence incidents and crimes each year, 800,000 women become victims of sexual assault annually, and over 90% of those committing these crimes are male. A 2018 study by researchers from Glasgow University, involving almost 1,000 rape survivors, found that more than 90% of rape and sexual assault victims knew their attacker. These statistics and critical insights into these crimes and their most likely perpetrators are reflected in the content and advice you will find in my future blogs and forthcoming book, “NEVER A VICTIM – The Definitive Guide to Women’s Safety.” This truly comprehensive guide contains 504 pages, over 110,000 words and numerous safety recommendations aiming to enhance your personal security. Some of these recommendations may feel restrictive to your freedom. Women’s safety can indeed be limiting, sometimes preventing you from doing exactly what you want. Unfortunately, this is an unavoidable reality that I cannot change. You will need to find a balance between enjoying your freedom and ensuring your safety. This may involve doing things differently from your preferred way or altering certain behaviours and habits altogether. If you feel it is unfair and wrong that women must be cautious, careful, and conscious of their actions—limiting what, when, and how they do things—I wholeheartedly agree with you. It is not women who should have to change and adapt to a world where sexual abuse and physical violence have become too common. Although there are many good men out there, it is men who need to rethink their attitudes and behaviours. Of course, it would be ideal if men behaved differently—much differently at times. It would be good, right, and just if the world were a place where the entire contents of my future blogs were unnecessary and irrelevant. But sadly, today, that is not the case. This is why, through my future blogs, I aim to empower you, offer encouragement, and help you live a safer life. – Robert Kaiser –