October is nationally recognised as Domestic Violence Awareness Month. We must all shine a light on the resilience of survivors, the unwavering support available, and the ongoing need to work towards building healthy relationships and safe homes – something every woman deserves. Help and support are available to those harmed by abuse, assault, and violence. Many organisations and individuals are ready to listen without judgement, offering both sympathy and empathy. Together with survivors, we should all strive to understand what has happened, plan for safety, begin the healing process, and move forward to thrive.
But none of us can end violence alone. For victims, having a strong support network and access to essential resources can mean the difference between life and death. Friends, colleagues, service providers, and community members must be educated to recognise the signs of coercive control and learn how to offer help and ensure safety. We must also use language that holds those who engage in abusive behaviour fully accountable for their actions. As we help victims plan their next steps, affirming their strength and autonomy, it is equally crucial to remind them that the abuse is never their fault, and their partner’s behaviour is completely unacceptable.
Survivors are often forced to make impossible choices. Leaving an abusive situation is statistically the most dangerous time for a victim, yet staying is also filled with risk. Victims are criticised, judged, blamed, and silenced by the very person who claims to love them. Our relationships and homes should be sanctuaries of comfort and security, not places where terror and shame thrive behind closed doors.
Together, we can expose the pervasive harm caused by domestic abuse. We must support survivors, regardless of their background or identity, because no one deserves to be harmed in a relationship. Abuse stems from a desire for power and control, wielded by those who feel entitled to dominate. Instead, we must foster positive, respectful connections based on mutual understanding and accountability, ensuring that everyone has a network of people to help them feel secure and supported.
This October and beyond, let us honour the immense strength of victims and work together to end domestic abuse. Stopping violence requires a collective effort, and we all have a role to play in helping every individual not only survive but thrive in safety.
For more on how to safeguard yourself and those around you, my forthcoming book NEVER A VICTIM – The Definitive Guide to Women’s Safety provides essential guidance on recognising and responding to domestic abuse, empowering women to reduce the risk of harm and reclaim their lives free from fear.